Charlotte Montessori Blog

What other people say

Thinking of topics for the blog can be a daunting task. The content should be relevant for all the age groups at the school, it should be helpful to parents but also fun to read…no one wants to read a lecture. I read through many other blogs, educational and sewing blogs mostly, and also browse Facebook and the internet in general. It is often through some of those sites that I find inspiration for my blog topic in what other people say. I will find a quote in a blog post or on a meme that strikes me. I mull over that quote for a while until one day in the shower, driving to school, or making dinner…that quote has turned into a 4 paragraph blog post.
Just that thing happened last week as I read a quote from a friends’ blog. I wrote the post in my head and was excited to get to it this past weekend when I had “free time” to sit at the computer. But in the meantime, I found several other words of wisdom that I felt relevant to parents also. So, I revamped and now present you with some of my favorite things that other people say from my computer navigation for the week…
The original inspiration for my post came from a former Charlotte Montessori mom’s blog: http://www.whatilearnedtodayinschool.com/summer-session-school-life/

In it, she quotes John Dewey “because no matter where it happens, school is always in session.” When we are parenting children, there is always an opportunity for learning to take place…not the sit down with pencil and paper, flash cards, number drills type of learning…but rather the “real lessons” of life. A neighborhood walk at a toddlers pace can reveal many things in nature, in observation, in connecting with your child. The ride to school or across town without the use of technology provides the opportunity for music, conversation, observations of the world around us. When you are with your child, take a step back and see what lessons they are learning from you.
Many of you know our love of Janet Lansbury with her simple to read and clear guidance with toddlers. This quote really jumped out at me when I read it:
This weekend I reflected on how our good intentions as parents and caretakers so quickly and insidiously set up a feedback loop of neediness. We assume the child cannot do something, so we impose our assistance on him. The next time he wants to do it, he looks for our help, as he has gotten used to it, and so we feel that our original assumption was correct, and we continue assisting.
But what a glorious freedom it is, for both child and caretaker, when we wait and trust and let it all unfurl before us in joyful discovery…”
Wow, right!? How often do we step in to help a child because he is struggling just a bit? We feel like we are helping him when reality we are actually setting him up to depend on us more. The full blog is here: http://www.janetlansbury.com/2013/07/the-glorious-freedom-of-a-capable-child/
This one came from a meme: “Sometimes we are moms who do too much because we have children who do too little. Make it your goal to work yourself out of a job. If a child can use a cell phone, they can run a washing machine.” Show your child lessons on how to run the dishwasher, the washing machine…make him an active member of taking care of your house.

And, another….“The thing is, adolescent behaviors that parents fear most such as rebellion, drug use, eating disorder, etc. don’t just appear out of nowhere. Teens don’t’ grow up in a vacuum. Our early parenting choices matter far more than we can imagine in those first months and years of our children’s lives. Our early parenting not only shapes who our children will become, but also has a powerful impact on our relationship with our teens. We are literally, building our relationship with our teens while were parenting our toddlers and preschoolers.” — LR Knost.

Sounds a little scary, doesn’t it? But it really doesn’t have to be complicated with a toddler…when you say no, mean no and stick with it. This shows our toddler you are the decisive leader in your relationship. When he is a teen, he will remember that guidance and safety that you provide him. If he rules your house as a toddler…he will rule the house as a teen and that is definitely not a good thing.

And, last but not least…

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